The feeling of your identity being threatened is a vicious one. Whether someone makes a flawed assumption about your religion, questions your sexual orientation, or just insults your favorite sports team, being attacked on a personal level really gets our blood pumping. And that's natural. But there are better and worse reactions to it.
People online come together and share pictures of men trying to protect their masculinity in the most toxic and unnecessary ways. The screenshots and pics provide an interesting glimpse into what triggers these insecurities and add a bit of satire to point out some of the most irrational examples.
#1 Thought Of This Sub When I Saw This
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#2 Wendy’s With The Truth
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Many of these, let's call them, statements seem to stem from men's frustration with communicating with women, especially romantically. A majority of the fellas we see in the pictures view it as some sort of power struggle where they must have the upper hand. While this dynamic might be suitable to some couples, by thinking that everyone must acknowledge it they're setting themselves up for conflict as often people are looking for the complete opposite.
"Vulnerability is the key to intimacy," Robert Taibbi, who is a licensed clinical social worker with nearly five decades of experience, told Bored Panda.
"It is about stepping outside your comfort zone and saying what is difficult to say. It is not about the content—what you actually say, but stepping up and saying what is difficult. Often the other person doesn't realize the risk you are taking, so you need to talk about this as well."
#3 Welp
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#4 My Post On Unpopular Opinions Got A Lot Of People Pretty Angry
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#5 Welcome To Reddit, Where Not Hating Women Is A Crime
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According to Taibbi, "too many men feel hurt but hold it in—it eventually builds up causing some explosion that they feel bad about and then try to sweep under the rug."
"The key is to talk about problems as they arise, to talk about you and your emotions, avoid the blame and getting into the weeds of whose reality is right," the author of Doing Family Therapy, said. "Help the other person know what you are most sensitive to and what you need most from the beginning, and not sweep problems under the rug — solve them."
#6 Talking About Marie Curie
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#7 The “Egalitarians” Are Mad That A Woman Doesn’t Feel Comfortable Filming Sex Scenes For Male Directors
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#8 He Sure Showed Her
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#9 The Rock Is Apparently Not A Real Man Anymore
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Taibbi thinks that some of the most common insecurities men experience in romantic relationships revolve around not feeling accepted, feeling rejected, or doing something wrong that will cause the other person to pull away or end the relationship: "If I am honest and vulnerable will you listen and hear what I am saying?" "Can you appreciate what I'm doing for you?"
Nowadays, however, 63% of young men (ages 18-29) report being single, compared with 34% of women in the same age group.
#10 F**k Women Who Don’t Change Their Name!!!
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#11 Adultery And Psychopathy Were Minor Details, I'm Sure
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#12 (Facebook. Not My Screenshot)
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#13 Haha Woman Bad Man Funny Gamer
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Psychotherapist, psychoanalyst, writer, and social critic Susie Orbach, agress that vulnerabilities unaddressed, often unknown or unnamed by the individual, can end up being expressed in brittleness and toughness.
"Being able to acknowledge uncertainties to oneself and to others is ... an aspect of strength," she wrote in The Guardian. "Cleaving to something unnamed that was missed can produce anger or despair. Boys didn't anticipate that there would be a rupture in nurture as they became adults; in other words, ... they wouldn't be able to simply rely on women's solicitations and [comfort] without showing more of themselves. Girls knew that they were 'supposed' to give support but were growing up to think of economic and emotional equality, not protection."
#14 Man Gets Offended Over A Image Of A Tampon
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#15 Rule Number 4 Says No Sexism, What Did He Expect??
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#16 The Only Thing Redditors Hate More Than Women Is Women That Want Equal Rights
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#17 Fellas, Is It Gay To Lean In For A Photo?
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Furthermore, Orbach believes that machismo doesn't achieve the desired effect of putting women in their place.
"That ship has sailed," she said. "It has offered a fundamentalist pull which endangers all of us; men, women, children, non-binary and trans people. It's time for a new conversation that opens the door to speaking of vulnerability and nurture as essential for all of us, and as an aspect of strength – as an antidote to toxicity."
#18 Muh Fragile Masculinity!!!!!
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#19 Until She’s On Her Best Behaviour, She Deserves Nothing
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#20 Not From Reddit But I Think It Fits
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#21 Wow... Just Wow
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When it comes to how men view themselves, 31% say they are very manly or masculine, 54% describe themselves as somewhat masculine and 15% say they are not too or not at all masculine.
At the same time, relatively few men (9%) say it’s very important to them, personally, to be seen by others as manly or masculine, while 37% say this is somewhat important to them.
#22 I Decided To Look Through The Sub Cause I Heard How Toxic It Is. Holy Shit
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#23 Imagine Being This Fragile About A Girl Buying A Home
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#24 I Got Downvoted For Saying That This Isn’t Funny
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#25 Gets Downvoted For Correctly Quoting Movie
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#26 A Feminine Man? The Horror
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#27 Got A Lot Of Angry Replies For This One Like "Do You Even Have A Dick" And People Saying I Had No Balls Lol
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#28 This Made My Brain Hurt
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#29 Both Sides Amirite
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#30 “I Forgive Ellen Page’s Deception For Promoting Herself As A Heterosexual Woman”
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#31 A Statue Representing The Myth Of A Woman Who Was R**ed Is Going To Be Installed In Honor Of Metoo
But rather that showing her beheaded by Perseus for his own gain, she will instead be shown holding her attacker’s head. Definitely a men’s rights issue!!!
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#32 That... Somewhat Defeats The Purpose Of Lgbtq?
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#33 Guy Is Upset That Sending Dick Pics To Strangers Makes Him Unfairly Labeled As “Sex Obsessed”
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#34 Calling Out The Hypocrisy Of Fragile Men On The Internet
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#35 Twitter : Don't Interrupt Women. Reddit : Cringe
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#36 Not From Reddit But I Thought It Fit Here
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#37 Reddit
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#38 Girl Dye Hair. Girl Bad
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#39 Someone Thought This Was Good Relationship Advice
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#40 Man Refuses To Stop Comparing Women To Objects
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#41 What’s The Quote? “You Think It’s Degrading For A Man To Act Like A Woman, Because You Think Being A Woman Is Degrading”?
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#42 Lmao I Feel Like Posting From This Sub Is Cheating
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#43 Fragile Male Tweeter Has To Be Attracted To Everyone
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#44 Twitter Makes Me Lose Hope
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#45 Well Ok Then
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#46 Single = Depression , From R/Conservativememes
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#47 You Have Been Warned
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#48 Lol Women Want To Kill All Men, Look At Me My Gender Is So Much Funnier Than Yours
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#49 Transphobia And Misogyny All In One
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#50 Hehe
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#51 On A Cringetopia Post About A Camgirl's Messy Room, The Comments Are A Mess
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#52 Stop Putting Your Preferred Pronouns As**ole!
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#53 Reminder That He's Not Gay!
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#54 This Sub Is Horrible R/Trueunpopularopinion
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#55 Sorry, I Know, Darkhumourandmemes Again. But I Just... Ugh
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#56 Women Not Being Just Eye Candy In A Movie Is Bad
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#57 Redditor Is So Fragile About His Masculinity He Puts Down Men Who Don't Intensively Exercise Due To Chronic Pain
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#58 Fmr Seeking Alternatives To Widely Available Statistics
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#59 Unpopular Opinion Once Again Gives Us The Best Of The Best
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#60 Same Person Was Defending Slavery In Another Tweet
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#61 Fragile Male Tiktokker
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#62 Asking The Hard Questions Inside The Echo Chamber
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#63 Apparently Cis Males Are The Glitch In The System Created By Straight Males
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#64 Pontifications On The Likelihood Of A Woman Going To Jail
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#65 He’s Upset They Added Pink Colors For Your Knight In A Medieval War Game
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#66 This Man Is So Oppressed By His "Hardcore Feminist" Girlfriend Being Upset By Legitimate Sexist Things
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#67 Fascinating
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#68 This Is A Huge F**king Yikes (Open The Entire Pic If Not Visible)
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#69 People Couldn’t Accept That Trap Is Derogatory Or A Slur
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#70 How Is This Even Comparable?
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#71 R/Whiteknighting Is A Sub For Fragile Male Redditors Apparently
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#72 Bro What
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#73 But Y’all Ain’t Ready To Hear That…
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#74 Apparently A Movie Ruined Women
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#75 But Women Can’t Be Smart Hurdur
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#76 On A Post About Hungary No Longer Recognizing Trans People
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#77 Rent-Free In Your F**king Head
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#78 When You Need 7 Adjectives To Prove Your Masculinity
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#79 I Guess One Innocent Man Going To Jail Is Worse Than Millions Of Women Getting Raped And Rapists Never Being Punished
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#80 All My Safe Places Get Banned
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#81 Lesbian Parents Means No Dad
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#82 Game Journalist Wants To Discuss That 2/3rds Of Women Are Harassed? Screw That. What About Men!?!
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#83 If You Sell Plasma You Are Also An Object Not Worthy Of Respect Or Dignity! Checkmate Ladies
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#84 It's Not The 23 Women, Deshaun Watson Is The Real Victim!!
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#85 Two Kinds Of People
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#86 “Weebs Callings Each Other Weebs Is Like Black People Calling Each Other The N-Word”
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#87 1. Feminists Don’t Want To Be Hired Over Men, We Just Want An Equal Opportunity And Equal Treatment. 2. What Makes Them Think Women, Especially Feminists, Don’t Pay For Their Dates?? (I Left In The Votes And Timestamp Since The Mras Came For Me Last Time)
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#88 Found On Ew, About A Woman Running The Witcher
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#89 Women Are Going To Destroy Society
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#90 This Guy Who Doesnt Like Women In Anime Overpowering Other Main Characters And Searching For An Anime Where Women Are Beat Instead. Lol
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