Most everyone has had a "good riddance to bad rubbish" when it came to ending a toxic relationship. More often than not, the "dump-ee" had some final words to say on the matter. Mine was a man I call The Monster Named (hmmm, let's just say Joe Schmo), who told me to "go find another d**k to suck tonight so you can feel better about yourself."
Have any more winners to share?
#1
One thing I don't understand is, HE wanted out, HE was sleeping with my best friend (and got her pregnant while we were in marriage counseling) so when I said okay, lets end it, he was enraged. He told me the world would be a better place if my mother had scraped me out with a rusty coat hanger than if I had been born. He also said, "You'll never find someone to treat you the way I did." THAT'S THE WHOLE POINT.#2
My ex (mother to my son) said I'm a sad a loser and no one else would want me. She abused me for the two years we were together. I've been in a happy relationship for 7 years now and have the best relationship with my son from my ex. I also have a son with my current partner. :)#3
My ex broke up with me and then sent me this whole text essay about how they never loved me and that I was just a game to them. ??#4
Ahhh, got a little list ;p- I'l kill you when I see you two walking
- You think anyone would want to have sex with a fat pig like you? (My SO likes my body, which is actually just a bit over the voluptuous side)
-You have to get yourself tested for an STD because you could have given it to me. (I never cheated, she however did and never got tested, I should just shut up.)
- If you don't (too many things to specifie) I'll come over with some friends and we'll beat you up. (Never happened, my SO is an ex police-officer and very not impressed by anybody)
- If I kill myself it's your fault (Yeah, not)
- I'll beat up your son! I'm at your house now and you're not home (Called the cops on her then who were there very quick) and also contacted my neighbours to check my house please.
- I order you to break of all contact with my family (with pleasure)
- You have to let me in when I come over to visit you, but only if you send "him" away while I'm there (Like what? You're not that important to me that I even want you to come visit me.)
- I have those things that I took with me when I moved, I'm in the neighbourhood and can bring them by. My response that I didn't need it anymore was not acceptable, I got an email full of hatred yet again...
I'm so happy she's somebody elses problem now, but the most happy I am for the fact that I had the guts to break up and choose for my own happyness finally ;)
#5
That without him I'm nothing.It was just his toxic, narcissist manipulation to bellitle me, as he was doing similar things for 7 years(time we were together). And this was hilarious, because I was taking care of everything about our relationship - it was me who found and furnished our apartment, I was cooking, cleaning, and paying for most of stuff as I have a better paid job. I dumped him because he was a narcissist and cared only about himself.
#6
Not mine but was given permission to share.My sister dated this guy for like 2 years. Super manipulative and toxic a**hole. When she finally had enough and broke it off, he flipped his lid.
Told her she was "f*cking worthless anyways" and "___ was a better f*ck anyhow" then he told her he had been planning to "drop [her] a** anyhow because [she was] starting to really pack on the pounds and it was getting gross"
She had an eating disorder for years. And she was really only starting to get back to a healthy weight, so calling her fat was possibly the cruelest thing her could've done.
Luckily, shed been going to therapy by that point and was really happy with the added weight so the words didn't do what he wanted.
#7
My EX taunted me saying you have something like a p-enis... only smaller!" I said, "Oh, you look like my new girlfriend... only fatter and less flexible". She didn't take it all that well!#8
Coming out of a two year baby-trap relationship between her and my bank account where my son and I were just background characters. Two years of emotional abuse, controlling and coercive behaviour ruined relationships with friends and family, lost my job, and a *lot* of physical abuse - which was always backed up with "there's nothing you can do to stop me, I can do whatever I want to you". That was true, she was absolutely right. I'm fourteen inches taller than her and close to three times her bodyweight so no one would have ever taken me seriously if I'd spoken out, likely they'd think I was trying to cover my tracks or something (this is going back several decades). Thing is though, it doesn't matter how big you are when someone takes a dinner plate and swings it full force like a hammer so the edge of it hits your top two front teeth - when you're asleep. Or they stick a needle under your fingernail, clamp your toes in the £200 hair straightener you just bought them. Nor does it help when you've let your guard down - like when you're being intimate, it's going very well, then out of the blue with no warning the person on top of you starts using your jaw as a punchbag while laughing at you (you can't see them because of my beard, but I've got little flower shaped scars along my jawline on both sides from where her rings cut in to my cheeks).Anyhow, the thing that sticks most in my mind from that time is from when I just packed a big bag for my son (I don't have even one single possession, item, no family photo's, anything at all from my life before the age of 26, just my medals which happened to be at my Dad's house) and walked out to save us both. Her parting shot was "Fine, take the little ba***rd, it's a f****ing c**t anyway. I never wanted it, should have drowned it in the f'king bath cos it's useless just like you. I'm gonna tell social services you beat me and did things to the kid so they'll take him off you anyway, then when you're in jail I'll just leave the little c**t on a bus for someone to take".
Now, I'm no angel, I'm not even a particularly good person. Especially when I was younger my go-to response for anything I felt slighted by was to express my displeasure by using my paws rather than my words (there's reasons behind it but this post is far too long already) - but saying that, I have never *ever* put my hands on a woman in that way, and to the day I draw my last breath I never ever will. Through all the abuse, trauma, misery it never even once crossed my mind, but just in that one instant - let's say it was a very, *very* close call. I'm not proud of that in any way shape or form, but right in that instant turning around and walking away, choosing to de-escalate rather than retaliate, "allowing" that person who's just upset me to walk away without "punishing them" for it, that's the single most self restraint I've had to show with anything ever.
#9
That I'm not good enough 2b loved but my friend, that you met through me is good enough. Happend 4times in a row, by 4 different people that don't know each other. It must b true.#10
My ex-fiancée, the week that my brother died, sent me an email about how we had to delete our wedding Facebook account and that I was a terrible person. I know that he knew about my brother dying, because we have mutual friends that would have told him. I'm glad that I ended things with someone who waited till it hurt the most to hurt me more.This was one of the many terrible things he said, but it stands out the most,
#11
You're nothing but a lazy user who nobody wants and nobody loves!!! I also reported your dog stolen and sent both your pictures in to every vet in the state so you'll be arrested when you bring him in for his shots!!!Not finished with all the legal nonsense, but a no-contact order works wonders.
#12
Ex-broke up with me for a fraternity brother of mine Senior year in college. Probably cheated on me with him but I’ll never know nor do I care. I started dating someone else, who she knew. Ex started asking my fraternity brothers about the new girl. That’s when I lost it. At an internal but formal seniors graduating event, I handed down to my fraternity brother the chair on which me and the ex last had sex on in the locker-room style shower of the fraternity house…which was already a notable event because it took place the day after finals the semester before when we had mistakenly thought the house was empty and we were both quite loud. 2 hours after the fraternity event, I get a call from the fraternity brother which I didn’t answer. 30 minutes later was the ex, which I did. She was barking up a storm about how that I was ruining her image, that I was destroying her good memories…blah blah blah. I didn’t say a word but laughed so hard and hung up the phone. Last I ever heard from her…I married the woman I had started dating and she gets a kick out of the story every time.#13
He told me that he wasn’t looking for anything serious…we had been together for 8 years, lived together for 6 and I had raised his children like my own. He could just never stop cheating.#14
After I split with my child's mother, on Christmas before are custody arrangements, she said she had left the state and that I would never see my child again. She then said I amount to nothing and I should k*ll myself because it would be better for my child to never know me, and she would make sure to tell my child good things about me so they wouldn't know how pathetic I was.I was a stay at home dad, so at the time I didn't have any money or a job. The house was under her name. I was living in my car that Christmas, but I had a trunk full of presents to give after selling a few things I had. She sent that message after I sat in a parking lot 3 hours waiting for them to show up.
After some time, I well established myself, have a wonderful relationship with my child.
The words she said on that Christmas broke me as a person, but that allowed me to rebuild myself into much more of a father then I would have become without leaving.
...I have a lot of petty things to say ? I won't say them, but man I really wanna ?
#15
My huisband told me hè didn't want op pay alimony, because we don't have kids. And therefore I was able to build my carreer within our marriage. Quess what: we had a son (still born) in 2019 AND an elaborate fertility program which led to a miscarriage after in 2021. So yeah, his commentaar hurt me.#16
He told me im nothing without him, he said he was going to commit suicide to try and get me back.#17
He took all of my biggest insecurities and made fun of them. He told me I should be insecure about them and listed out examples of how true they were#18
One cheated on me & told me I was an alcoholic (after he got a DUI). Another said that I was mentally ill because I was leaving him after he'd cheated on me (then he got into the boxes I'd packed & stole several of my things). Another told me that he hated that I'd cut my hair, that I should skip lunches (apparently I was getting too fat for him), and that it wasn't hard work but simply dumb luck that I'd been able to land a great career (but he had no problem spending the money I made on old cars & other useless c**p, including using MY severance check to buy an old Ford pickup). When I told him I wanted a divorce, he was shocked. Really? He guilt-tripped me into leaving a couch that was purchased with MY bonus check & ended up giving it away after I left.I have my grandmother's luck when it comes to lousy men!
#19
you'll never be more than a curiosity sh*g. This was 10 years ago.#20
"You're not pretty enough to dump someone like me. In fact, *I* say it's over between us!"#21
man I'd regret recalling this, but here we go:fyi i have a speech problem, mainly stuttering (improving tho) but it was rlly rlly bad last yr especially after lockdown. Sooo when things kinda broke of he said bullshits like 'your novel is a waste of time' 'we can date again once you learn how to speak English *wink emoji' this s**t lowkey hurt bc its not that i cant speak english properly i just have a speech problem that happens regardless of what language I speak. He harassed me way too f*****g much afterward, using his friend's accounts to send hateful messages and even to the extend of personal and school emails. He was a pathological liar and left me scarred for a long time. I'm all g now tho.
#22
They didn't say it to me, but they tried to convince the entire school that I was racist...#23
I don't know if it counts, since I didn't dump them. But the first girl I dated left me for the guy she was cheating on me with, and she told me explicitly. She also told me how much better he was than me.The second girl I dated admitted to deliberately trying to push me into suicide.
#24
“What kind of a mother would a girl like YOU be?”I had become close friends with an Irish co-worker. He was a fairly naïve country boy who loved my tattoos and ever-changing hair color, and was always fascinated with my unusual upbringing and adventures. Until we drunkenly hooked up after our company’s Xmas party, and I became pregnant.
I was almost 30 and wanted to have it and remain friends. He threatened to go back to Ireland to avoid child support if I did not do what HE and his family back home wanted- which was to have the baby and give it up for adoption. At the same time, he wanted to name it after an ex-girlfriend of his. (WT actual F?) I’m on my own in every sense with no family or support system, and I didn’t want my child to grow up in the same miserable poverty that I did. So I had an abortion. As it turned out, I was never able to get pregnant again. So my “family” dies with me.
#25
Technically she dumped me, but what she said still hurt.We were supposed to go out on Valentines Day, but she came home and said she had other plans. After arguing a bit, she said she had plans with another guy.
So I asked her if she was breaking up with me on Valentines Day, and her response was "It's rude to cancel plans with someone once you've made them".
Yeah, that stung.
#26
When I realized he was a narcissist, I decided to end things. My son had passed away the year before from cardiac arrest brought on by energy drinks. When he started gaslighting me (again) and I said I was done, he got nasty and physical. He told me that if I’d been a better mother, my son would still be alive. I lost it and tried to leave. He dove into the car as I was leaving, causing me to accidentally run over his leg. I called 911, then he pulled a gun on me while I was on the phone. The dispatcher overheard the whole conversation and sent police. He tried to say I mowed him down but he was partially in the passenger, hanging out the door so they didn’t believe him. They arrested him based on what the dispatcher had relayed. A week later he was arrested AGAIN for breaking his son’s jaw. No revenge needed.#27
After I broke up with my ex (after a year of his condescending behavior and I finally had enough after he berated me for posing with an advertisement/billboard of one of my fav K-pop stars), he told me for my next relationship I get into, I would most likely be physically abused.#28
That he'd slept with his ex the night before and it had showed him how much he "really cared" for me.You know, because there's no better way to say "I love you" than forking someone else.#29
I told my ex to choose between his addict or the kids and myself. He said straight out said his addiction. Good riddance.#30
Dumped him because he could not stop cheating on me. Told him the day I broke up with him, I couldn’t believe I gave him my virginity and he had the gall to tell me he had been a virgin, too. Pure unadulterated a*****e!#31
He tried to spread lies that I was a p*dophile and posted revenge porn of me with a summary of how I liked young boys.This, this from the 30 year old that went on and on abput how he wanted to "deflower" a virgin, forced me to dress up as a schoolgirl as much as possible, previously had *been* with a younger girl and stole underwear from lost and founds so he could do nasty things with them (trust me... nasty).
I was young myself (21), had moved out to be with him, had a mental illness and couldn't support myself. Luckily I got away after several years and what I know now was at least one rape, but it took 3 or 4 years.
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