Husband Is Annoyed With Wife Keeping Secrets About Her Job And Having Free Time, Tells Her To Find Another One

There’s this outdated stereotype that believes in men being breadwinners. But in the increasingly progressing and empowering society where gender equality is seen as one of the greatest values, this is becoming a thing of the past.

Yet, this research from the University of Bath showed that husbands are least stressed when their wives earn up to 40% of household income, but they become increasingly uncomfortable as their spouse’s wages rise beyond that point and are most stressed when they are entirely economically dependent on their partner. In other words, they are not happy if their female partner is making more than them.

This story from the AITA subreddit is basically this theory put into practice. “While I find myself struggling with money and having to have to borrow from the joint bank account, my wife never has this problem,” an anonymous husband who goes by the handle TAwifework35 wrote recently.

Turns out, what makes him frustrated in particular is how he gets back to work only to see his wife “chilling (watching TV, playing video games, reading or exercising) or shopping or in the gym.” Fed up with her “wasting her day,” he confronted her with a demand that people say is simply delusional.

Recently, a frustrated man has shared how he got fed up with his well-earning wife who has way more down time and told her to get another job

Image credits: Mikhail Nilov (not the actual photo)

Image credits: Priscilla Du Preez (not the actual photo)

Although we’d much rather not talk about money to not give a bad aftertaste to otherwise romantic relationships, the truth is: we have to. Whether you’re married or in a relationship, household finances and the way you handle them really matter. However, many couples seem to be missing the big financial picture, and the tension rises when one starts making more than the other.

According to Deborah Price, author of “The Heart of Money,” “One of the most common issues I see is that the person who earns less views the breadwinner’s income as ‘our money,’ but considers their own salary ‘their money.’” Price argues that if left unmanaged, “this attitude can start to fracture the relationship.”

A sense of entitlement may be to blame. The underearner may feel jealous and think that they shouldn’t be expected to pitch in, since their partner makes so much more. Meanwhile, for breadwinner partners, the feeling like they are responsible for supporting the whole family can be overwhelming. That’s why it’s important to talk through these kind of worries with your partner, before it starts wreaking havoc on a relationship.