One of the key defining aspects of a modern, 21st-century society is the freedom to make choices. And it’s even more so if said choices are personal and have everything to do with just you.
However, where there’s a choice, there’s likely to be push-back, and some topics tend to be more controversial than others.
A woman has recently posted a now-viral video featuring her celebrating her sterilization, which in turn sparked quite a reaction from people on the internet.
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Making a choice is often a difficult thing to do, and not because of personal reasons, but because of factors beyond your reach
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Meet Abby Ramsay, a 25-year-old asexual actress, model, and activist from Los Angeles, who has recently been going viral for her video officially celebrating her sterilization. Abby’s story is long and full of hurdles, but we’ll try to hit on the key points and why it all matters.
So, Abby, despite having grown up in a rather religious background—which, as you might have guessed, can be very pro-kids—has made a decision to get sterilized and to live child-free.
And while there are many other ways to achieve the same goal, she explained that regular forms of birth control aren’t an option for her—hormones and pills make her sick, there’s fear of foreign objects being inside her, and condoms aren’t a 100 percent guarantee.
But after 6 years of running from doc to doc and jumping through hoops, 25 Y.O. Abby has finally gotten sterilized
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On top of it all, considering all of these challenges, being pregnant and becoming a parent will just bring about even more chaos into Abby’s life. This is besides the fact that she has erratic period cycles, which can also be solved by sterilization, and it also gives her peace of mind.
Now, as you might have already guessed, her journey wasn’t easy. There was a surprisingly huge number of docs (6 years’ worth of them, mind you) who refused to perform the sterilization surgery for a number of reasons, but mostly because they thought she was too young and that she would still likely change her mind.
The video went viral with over 3.8M views and has generated quite a bit of reactions from the internet
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Abby has documented much of her journey on her TikTok channel, answering people’s questions about it along the way
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As if making this decision wasn’t easy enough, many of these doctors sounded either skeptical, or even somewhat condescending regarding Abby’s choice of sterilization. She would often leave doctor’s offices feeling defeated and crying.
She also pointed out that her white male therapist (who some docs recommended talking to) was extremely supportive of her decision, while so many doctors, all female, were against it.
But, she finally found a doctor who agreed to do the surgery at the Complete Women’s Care Center in Southern California. In fact, the doctor who performed the surgery also had the surgery herself, which is always reassuring when it comes to being supported by your doctor.
One of the biggest questions for everyone was why, and in a nutshell it was because she had no other options
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The surgery went well, she felt great, got a loads of rest, during which she started answering loads of people’s questions about it all. Speaking of which…
Comments were all over the spectrum, ranging from congratulations to support to women saying they wish they could do the same, to the other side of the spectrum, which is ironic, sarcastic and just pure hate comments.
And needless to say, this has become a bit of a discussion as a result, because on one hand, you have those who are for women being able to choose what they want for their body and life, and on the other hand there are those against it, resorting to putting “sick” labels on her, attempting to appeal to “what ifs,” and, classic, playing the God card.
Another question was why it took so long, which was mainly doctors hindering the process
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Abby has actually been replying to hate comments very actively and even rating them here and here.
Her video got over 3.8 million views with over 600,000 likes and thousands of comments. This is besides all of her other videos on the topic, which on average accumulated between 15 and 30 thousand views.
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Abby documented most of her journey on her TikTok channel, including everything from where to start and how to prepare to what it feels like, the logistics and whatnot, so you can find the finer details of the story there.
But before you scurry off, share your thoughts with us in the comment section below!
You can check out the original celebration video below
@abbysworldsastage I’m excited to take control of my own body. I’m not a baby maker. #childfree #childfreebychoice #sterilization #celebration ♬ abcdefu (angrier) – GAYLE
As mentioned previously, people had varied opinions, with some not agreeing at all, but most were positive and supportive
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