Have you ever found yourself in a situation where someone was acting inappropriate, but no one besides you didn’t seem to notice? And you didn’t say anything just because you felt as if it would just make everything worse? This TikTok user @nayaaford asked her followers to share what is something that people find normal or even idealised when it is an example of toxic behaviour. In her video that has 49.6k likes and almost 3.5k comments, she pointed out that one of the examples of toxic behaviour is wanting a “significant other” who is unfriendly and even mean to other people just because this would mean that they are not going to cheat.
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Giving men glory for doing all the normal things women do..ie: cleaning, cooking, caring for their own kids, grocery shopping, etcIt encouraged more people to share their examples of toxic behaviour in the comment section: overprotected partners who end up being control freaks, covering early abuse signs with “if someone is mean to you, it means they like you”, or blaming one’s bad behaviours or lack of responsibility to their zodiac sign. This endless list shows some ridiculous as well as serious problems that society faces but not really takes into consideration, instead they are simply normalised.
#2
Telling little girls "if hes being mean to you it means he likes you"... no.. just no#3
OCD. It's not trendy it's an illness.The virality of the video and the number of comments of this TikTok video showed that people are actually aware of these toxic behaviours. But why then people get along with these situations? Most of them occur in the family and groups of friends. So not saying to your family member or a close friend that they are being unreasonable saves you from a fight that at first seems unnecessary because these people are close to you, so why would they want bad things for you?
#4
People bragging that they are “brutally honest”. You can be honest without being Brutal.#5
Don't come at me but moms who excessively drink wine to put up with their kids. you'll never convince me it's ok .#6
Minimizing your own experience by saying “others have it way worse than you”. No. My feelings are valid regardless of how worse it could be.Later all these saved fights turn little annoying behaviours into normalised habits: spitting something upsetting and then calling yourself “brutally honest”, being abusive towards your son’s/daughter’s partner, or spreading toxic positivity when clearly this is not the way to solve an occurring problem.
Do you also find some other things that people say or do to be toxic, or maybe you know an effective way on how to stop this kind of behaviour? Share your thoughts in the comments!
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They use their zodiac sign to justify their actions and anger issues.#8
Toxic positivity... let people feel#9
Being each other's “everything”. Nah y'all both need lives, family, and friends#10
Giving money to homeless on YouTube. Toxic. You don't need other people to see you doing charitable things for it to be worth doing.#11
Adhd- just because you were late a few times and got distracted by your friends in class doesn't mean you have it. It's not fun and quirky.#12
Overprotective partners - your partner should trust your judgment enough to let you stand up for yourself or ask for their help when it's needed#13
Mother in law's being abusive towards their son mates it's normal in so many cultures and it's NEVER OKAY#14
"Push yourself till it hurts” when it comes to work, school, physical activities. I don't get paid enough to go over my physical limits.#15
When the current gfs hate their boyfriends ex's for no other reason but the fact they dated him.#16
But we got a baby together so we gotta stay together#17
Possessive partners#18
People romanticise "being crazy" in relationships. "Yeah she's so crazy, she deleted every girl off my Facebook, she's so crazy I love her though#19
Treating trauma/traumatic events as a competition.#20
Hustle culture for me. Would rather have a good paying 9-5 than 3 entrepreneural "hustles"#21
I don't know if this is toxic but people think that because two people have been together for years their relationship is perfect and healthy.#22
When people talk about beating there kids or scaring there kids#23
The ‘psycho' girlfriend. There's a difference between boundaries and control/abuse#24
The whole “respect your elders” where I agree, you should show respect but there is a lot of disrespectful elderly and people in general who don't#25
Men not taking care of their children because they have a new woman in their life#26
Going through your partners phone#27
Any beauty standards#28
The concept of forgiveness nowadays is just "oh yeah they hurt you and u prob have trauma u will deal with forever but just forgive and move on" um no#29
Friendzoning! setting boundaries in friendships should be okay. no one owes you getting into a relationship#30
Couples that take pride in being each other's only friends and spend ALL their time together. It's good to be separate from your partner sometimes#31
For kids-he picks on her cause he likes her.#32
Befriending the kid that's alone out of pity. Bruh sometimes they just don't like the environment or people#33
Alcoholism#34
Hyper independence when really its just unaddressed childhood or other past trauma#35
Being petty, people wear it as a badge of honor. You can have boundaries so people don't overstep but being petty is usually just extreme immaturity.#36
People bragging about having no boundaries like how their bestfriends just show up in their rooms with no notice like some ppl need boundaries#37
Anger issues#38
Drinking because you are stressed or overwhelmed.#39
Having no feelings and not wanting to admit when you actually care or when something is actually affecting you#40
The idea your friends owe you so much more than they really do... let people be independent and live their lives. Be a good friend but don't be clingy#41
Standing by a partner when they are unwilling to better themselves and their life situation#42
Being a ride or die#43
Maladaptive Daydreaming- its not cute and fun, you miss out on ur life and become extremely dependent on it. you also can't turn it off its alwys on#44
Abuse in POC homes#45
Not texting people back that you like#46
Having multiple partners /cheating#47
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