Weddings are meant to be a celebration of love and the deep bond that connects two people. Now, that might sound a bit cheesy, but I mean it! They’re beautiful ceremonies that lay the foundations for an even stronger relationship. What weddings aren’t supposed to be… are a way for your parents to control you while they make money.
A redditor shared how their parents were planning to use their wedding as a way to make bank. See, they were planning to force their child to invite all of their distant relations and acquaintances so that everybody brings money as a gift. That, in their parents’ opinion, is their way of getting back all the cash that they gave out at other people’s weddings, graduation parties, and other important events.
Naturally, the redditor confronted their parents when they realized that they have zero control over their own wedding. Scroll down and have a read through the whole story below. But be warned, you might just want to gasp and say, “They did not just say that” a few times.
A bride-to-be confronted her parents who wanted to take control of the guest list and were hoping for lots and lots of cash gifts
Image credits: peteandcharlotte (not the actual photo)
The redditor was concerned that they overstepped some sort of invisible line when they told their parents that they don’t have control over the guest list. However, most Redditors visiting the AITA board thought that they were being perfectly reasonable. It’s their wedding after all!
And no matter how much you love your parents and how much they’re taking care of you, they don’t have the right to demand that you dance to their tune. Especially when their end goal is so clearly financial and not a way to improve the celebration of love. There are other ways to recoup your financial losses than by using a wedding as an excuse.
The redditor’s also worried about the fact that their wedding might just end up being a show to put on for others. In short, nobody should feel like all they’re doing is performing and making others happy on what’s supposed to be the happiest day of their lives. Sure, there’s got to be at least some awkward chatting with distant relatives and thanking people for coming, but that’s part of finding the balance between completely ignoring your guests and fulfilling their every whim.
Later on, the redditor added three more updates to the story. They pointed out that they simply want to celebrate their wedding with the people they care most about. What’s more, they shared that they plan to have a heart-to-heart chat with their parents about everything and liked the idea of having a separate dinner for some people so that they don’t feel offended or left out.
Finally, on a lighter note, they bluntly said that they’re not related to the mafia in any way. Though they did end up deleting their temporary Reddit account later on, which begs the question: was it to prevent their family members from seeing the post or because they might actually have ties to the mafia? Small conspiracy theories aside, they’re in a tough position. Having to choose between what your family wants for you and what you want from your own life is an important part of growing up. And you end up disappointing someone a tad no matter what on your path to independence.
How much money you bring somebody as a gift for their wedding depends immensely on the country, the local traditions, as well as the particular trends in your social circle. For instance, WeddingWire suggests bringing at least 200 dollars cash as a gift for close family members and friends.
Meanwhile, for someone who’s not as close, 150 or even 100 dollars is perfectly fine. However, these are just general guidelines, so take them with a grain of salt! And if you’re suspicious that you’re invited just because you’ll be bringing cash, consider skipping the wedding and RSVP’ing with a ‘no.’
Here’s how some people have been reacting to the redditor’s story after it was posted online
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